If this sounds harsh or whatever, I'm sorry. When the one who usually picks yourself up can't then what do you do? Pick yourself up! Don't dwell on things, especially negative emotions. You can choose to feel happy if you really want to. Talking about things never being good or nothing ever working out is just stupid and is going to make you feel worse. You can still be happy in between phone calls! Life goes on! At least you're not far away from you home, friends, and family. You still have that comfort, that luxury. So use it! Talk to people! Hang out with your friends! Don't spend all your time moping around or whatever. Also the line "I'm sure Dave is doing fine without me and doesn't even miss me" makes me sick. 1) Do you WANT to feel sh itty all the time? and 2) That's a really stupid assumption!
I'm not trying to sound mean, just stop making yourself feel worse and try to live your life normally until you can talk to/ be with/ see him again. Do you think he'd like the idea of you feeling like this? Try to support him a little! You can still miss him, don't get me wrong, just not like this. Also, try looking at it on a grand scale. This sadness is only a small instance and you probably won't remember much of it later on. SO hang in there, okay? I've been in a similar situation before (although it bore a greater resemblence to Dave's point of view).
I'm probably rambling by this point, but there you have it.

hey lady-
so, here's the thing.
i'm not trying to be mean, but you're being a tad melodramatic.
yes, you're in a ****ty situation, but you haven't been dealt the ****tiest cards ever.
you HAVE someone you love, despite the fact that they're far away. You also have all your limbs, your health, you have friends, food, shelter, and other such necesessities that we americans have gotten so used to we don't even think about their absence.
To be honest, you've got it better than David does, at least from my point of view. You're stuck missing him while you're at home with friends, he's missing you far away, completely removed from his comfort zone and whatnot. Plus- he'd technically have to worry that you might not be there when he gets back, as that often happens in this type of situation, whereas it's not like he's going to leave you while he's gone. No way. If anything, you'd probably be a big motivating force that helps him get through the day when things get rough.

And the melodrama that I was talking about-- of course he fuccking misses you! Seriously? I mean, I've been there before, I've played the, "they don't even care!" game, but in your circumstance, without a doubt there is no disputing the fact that he totally misses you.

I mean, I'm sure it's rough having him far away, but the way you're counting down- you're almost half done until you can see him again. Try to stay busy, hang out with cool friends, read books, do whatever it is that you do.

I'm sorry if I sounded mean at all, but you gotta stay positive.
"Humiliation is humiliation and torture is torture only when you choose to suffer."
Obviously things are pretty ****ty, but you don't have to make them extremely ****ty. You can make them bearable, at least.
bake cupcakes.

I'm not sure you quite understand what we were saying.
I know for sure you didn't get what I was.
I've had some super rough times, many of which I don't care to mention at this point. The last thing I needed was people to say, "ohh. poor janae... that's really ****ty. That must be awful. Your life is terrible." Because the last thing I needed was to feel sorry for myself, and if someone were to say that, I'd be like I had permission, and I'd probably feel even worse about myself because even from an outside perspective it sucks.
I prefer the "Tell it like it is" approach, which people generally can only appreciate in hindsight.

but anyway, I know you love him, and you said just there something about "if you guys could see us togehter..." yeah, well then why would you be saying how he probably doesn't even care and whatever.
those two sentences are opposites. Hence the melodrama I spoke of. Which is it? Obviously he loves you, so don't let the "he doesn't give a shiit" thoughts enter your mind.

You're going to hate to hear this, but let's face it. You're young. When people are 13-17, everything is "the end of the world". So-and-so ignored your call, OMGG. end of the world. The problem for you is, that you actually have a terrible situation to deal with instead of stupid shiit. But you need to let the "end of the world" style thoughts go away, because yeah, it sucks, but you WILL see him soon, and it'll be awesome. You both love eachother, and you have a lot to be happy about.
I know it's shiitty, and I'm not saying you shouldn't be at all upset, or that you're being ridiculous. I'm sorry if it comes across that way. What I am saying is to think about it as rationally as possible. The situation, it sucks. But- David loves you, and you love him. Think of that whole Love Conquers all thing. If you two are in love, it'll all work out jesusy.

now I have to go and stare in the mirror and resist the urge to chop off my hair.

None of us have any clue what Brittany is going through.
We have right to judge her.

She is in love.
When your in love you actually care more about the feelings and well being of the other than your feelings or well being.
This feeling isn't survival of the species or fulfilling some duty you feel you owe this person.
It defies all instinct. That is exactly the opposite of what a human is wired to do.
F*ck having all your limbs, your health, you have friends, food, shelter, and other such necessities that we Americans have gotten so used to we don't even think about their absence.
I'm sure Brittany would give all that up to be with David her whole life.
Having your heart broken actually induces physical pain, A LOT OF PAIN.
Can you think of and emotional pain so great that the brain has to inflict physical pain on the body to distract it's self from the emotional pain? (It's true the brain focuses on the pain most threatening to the body)

David is her life.
It's worse that being dead.
It's like being dead but still having to live the bad part of your life.

You can't compare one love to another but I say I'm pretty physical and mentally competent. And if I had to go with out Anna for that long I'd be doing a lot worse than Brittany.

So instead contradicting her and making it sound like she is exaggerating her emotions.
WHY DON'T WE BE THERE FOR HER LIKE FRIENDS ARE MEANT TO, LIKE DAVID ASKED EACH AND EVERY ONE OF US?

janae and zach, i know you think she's blowing it allout of proportion, but that's what love does. rich and i have been apart for two weeks at most in the course of dating and it's the worst feeling ever. if i were in brittney's place i'd be falling apart even worse. i'm dissapointed in those of you who chose to tear her down instead of support her. we were all given david's trust to care for brittney in his absence, and i think some of us have forgotten that.

the idea here is that she wanted to vent (stop me if i'm wrong Brittney), and not be torn apart for expressing herself. of course we're not going to encourage her to think negative. we need to help her think positive instead of discouraging her for thinking depressively.
she wants our help here, and instead this thread has degenerated into picking on each other because someone had to go and take the offensive on something that didn't require an argument. good job.

someguyyouknow wrote:

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None of us have any clue what Brittany is going through.
We have right to judge her.

She is in love.
When your in love you actually care more about the feelings and well being of the other than your feelings or well being.
This feeling isn't survival of the species or fulfilling some duty you feel you owe this person.
It defies all instinct. That is exactly the opposite of what a human is wired to do.
F*ck having all your limbs, your health, you have friends, food, shelter, and other such necessities that we Americans have gotten so used to we don't even think about their absence.
I'm sure Brittany would give all that up to be with David her whole life.
Having your heart broken actually induces physical pain, A LOT OF PAIN.
Can you think of and emotional pain so great that the brain has to inflict physical pain on the body to distract it's self from the emotional pain? (It's true the brain focuses on the pain most threatening to the body)

David is her life.
It's worse that being dead.
It's like being dead but still having to live the bad part of your life.

You can't compare one love to another but I say I'm pretty physical and mentally competent. And if I had to go with out Anna for that long I'd be doing a lot worse than Brittany.

So instead contradicting her and making it sound like she is exaggerating her emotions.
WHY DON'T WE BE THERE FOR HER LIKE FRIENDS ARE MEANT TO, LIKE DAVID ASKED EACH AND EVERY ONE OF US?

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 all right, like some else said.

you guys are the only ones who have ever been in love, okay?
and seeing as you two are still together, I'm not sure how much you guys know about LOSING the one you love.
I understand where you're all coming from, I know how crazy love makes people act and whatnot, I've been in love, I get it. and I've had the really fuccking shiitty fall out too, so it's not like I don't know what the emotional pain bullshhit.

I know that while she may gladly be a torso in the middle of the woods with no food, family, or shelter in exchange for having david, that isn't the case. She has her limbs and all her basic needs (with the exception of david's prescense.) met. I was saying, "at least you have all of that"
When things get shiitty, I try to be grateful. And it's not like I haven't been dealt a really fuccking shiitty hand before either, you guys don't know a lot of the things that have happened to me because that's what I want. I'm not into everyone knowing all my problems, past or present.
I'm not at all saying she has no reason to be upset, she does have plenty reason. What I was saying was to be RATIONAL. i.e. don't say david doesn't miss her, when it's obvious he does. And while it may feel like the end of the world, she's about halfway through seeing him again.

Yeah, I will be there for anyone that wants advice, or to vent. But I think it's important to keep their depression realistic, why would anyone want someone to say, "oh, poor you."?
Maybe I misunderstood, if someone wants pity, I'll give them it.
Personally, I hate pity. It makes me feel worse.
Have any of you had to tell anyone the worse thing that ever happened to you, and then just by the look on their face you could never tell anyone ever again? I mean, it's not like saying, "what the hell is wrong with you? you have no reason to be upset" is a good response either, but we weren't trying to say that.

I'm sorry if it came across as being harsh, that wasn't my intention.
What I wanted was for her to think about what she was feeling, and what was "called for" of what she was feeling.

If I wasn't realistic with my depression and circumstances, well, I'd have killed myself about fifty times already.
what I was getting at is this, "it's not the end of the world, it's the begining of your life"
she's young, she's in love, how is that the end? If anything, that's definitely the beginning of the rest of her life.

how is that bad?
in the end, their love will be stronger.
at least she KNOWS he loves her back, and they'll be together when he returns.

I'm not at all trying to be a biitch.
the internet sucks for it's lack of tone.